Cremation continues to be a popular preference/option for the final resting of the body of a loved one. While some families choose to hold loved ones ashes in an urn, many families today are planning a graveside service for the burial of ashes in a family plot or purchase a new grave for this reason. The term for this is what we call ‘interment of ashes’. This option allows both family and friends to remember their loved ones with respect and dignity while having a place to go to remember.
This can give bereaved families an outlet to grieve and a feeling of closure. The graveside service for the burial of ashes will often include most of the facets of a funeral service – playing of music, delivery of a short eulogy, some prayers or a poem/reflection that may have been read at the funeral service, followed by a Rite of Committal or a Spiritual Blessing committing the person to their final resting place.
The scattering of ashes is a special occasion to commemorate the life of a loved one. With a little thought and preparation your ceremony to scatter their ashes, will be meaningful, memorable, heartfelt and dignified. It is a fantastic opportunity to give your loved one the send-off they would have wished for.
Ashes have been scattered in many different locations, for eg: a favourite beach or park, maybe a sports arena, or somewhere of particular significance. If the location is a private one, permission will be needed from the landowner.
The date and time of the scattering ceremony is important – anniversaries or birthdays are particularly poignant. The time of the ceremony should be considered if you have chosen somewhere which may get busy as you would require privacy e.g. a beach/river. Sunrise and sunset can be quieter and add to the sense of ceremony. Symbolic actions like lighting candles or lanterns, scattering petals, or maybe planting a tree can add to the occasion and leave a memorable impact.
Every family is different and how they choose to honour a loved one’s passing is as unique as the family. No matter the type of service you desire, I can help you plan a personalised service allowing you to celebrate a life well lived.
In many ways, a Memorial Service is actually quite similar to a Funeral Service. A Funeral Service occurs with the body present. In contrast, a memorial service contains much of the same structure although the deceased’s body is not present at the service, although you may have your loved ones ashes present. Because a Memorial Service occurs after the remains have been cared for, you can take more time to plan a ceremony and decide how you want to pay tribute to your loved one. A Memorial Service can be held in a family home, a hotel, or other suitable venue like a club hall etc.
A Memorial Service differs from a Funeral Service in that it’s often a little more casual with a relaxed atmosphere with guests attending to celebrate a life well lived and also has the added bonus of being less time restricted. A memorial service may or may not include elements from a traditional funeral service, although the choice is left up to you the family.
A eulogy, or funeral speech, is a spoken tribute about a person at their funeral. A eulogy helps build a picture of your loved one in all their facets, and the impact they had on different people. Typically, a eulogy is delivered by a family member or close friend. This can be a very traumatic and daunting task in what is a very emotional time. I can help you with structuring and writing your loved ones story, and if you wish, I can deliver said eulogy at any Religious, Spiritual or Civil Service.